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The Immaturity of Name-Calling: Why Calling Someone a Heretic Isn’t the Way Forward

In a world that’s often polarized, it’s easy for people to retreat into their own echo chambers, believing their perspective is the only valid one. This can be especially true when it comes to deeply held religious beliefs. One of the most common and damaging responses in these situations is name-calling, especially when someone dares to hold a different opinion. In Catholic discourse, calling someone a "heretic" is one such example—used as a weapon to silence or belittle others who simply express an alternative viewpoint.

The act of name-calling, especially labeling someone a heretic, is both immature and counterproductive. It reflects an inability to engage with differing opinions thoughtfully and respectfully. Most importantly, it undermines the very principles of Christian fellowship and communion.

What Does "Heretic" Mean?

The term "heretic" has deep and serious connotations. According to the Oxford Dictionary, a heretic is “a person holding a belief or opinion at odds with what is generally accepted, especially in a religious context.” This word was historically used to ostracize, excommunicate, and even punish those who challenged the status quo within religious institutions. While the label may be used in certain theological discussions to highlight doctrinal differences, it has no place in civil discourse—especially when someone is simply sharing a lived experience or offering a perspective based on their faith.

Calling someone a heretic for supporting women's ministry, LGBTQ+ inclusion, or any other progressive belief within the Church is an unjust and uncharitable act. It not only misrepresents their position but also disregards the importance of lived experience in understanding faith. Just because someone expresses an opinion rooted in their unique journey with God doesn't mean they are a "heretic"—it means they are engaging in the ongoing conversation about faith in an authentic way.

The Role of Lived Experience in Faith

Christianity has long been a faith rooted in personal encounter with God. Whether it’s through Scripture, prayer, community, or reflection, our understanding of God is shaped by lived experience. Jesus Himself was radical in His inclusion of people from all walks of life—showing that there is no singular, one-size-fits-all experience of God. If anything, Christianity has always emphasized that God works in mysterious ways, and He meets people where they are.

So when someone—especially a woman—expresses support for women in ministry or the ordination of women, it’s not an attack on doctrine. It’s an expression of their lived faith, informed by their relationship with God. To dismiss that by calling them a heretic is to ignore the richness of personal experience and the diversity of ways God works in our lives.

What’s at Stake When We Resort to Name-Calling?

Using terms like “heretic” is damaging for several reasons. First, it shuts down meaningful conversation. When someone is labeled a heretic, the natural human response is to withdraw or become defensive, rather than engage in a thoughtful, prayerful exchange of ideas. The goal of dialogue is lost when we resort to name-calling.

Second, it undermines the very spirit of the Christian community. Christianity, at its core, is about love, understanding, and reconciliation. Name-calling goes against the ethos of Christ’s message, which is about compassion, humility, and service to others. Jesus didn’t call the woman caught in adultery a heretic; He showed her mercy. He didn’t cast aside those who were considered “sinners” by society; He invited them to the table. So why should we call someone a heretic simply because they share a belief or experience that differs from our own?

Christ’s Table: A Place of Hospitality, Not Exclusion

The Eucharist—the Body of Christ—is the center of our faith and our community. The table of Christ is a place of hospitality, where we are invited to sit together in our differences, seeking communion with God and one another. This table is not meant to be a place where we exclude those who don’t agree with us, nor is it a place where we impose our will on others through accusations and judgment.

To call someone a heretic is to exclude them from this table. It’s to say that their faith is not valid, that their experience with God is less than yours. This kind of exclusion directly contradicts the message of the Gospel, which teaches us to love our neighbors, to bear with one another, and to be slow to anger and quick to listen.

A Barrier to Unity: How Name-Calling Contributes to Division Between Catholics and Protestants

The use of labels like "heretic" isn’t just harmful within Catholic circles—it also reinforces the division between Protestants and Catholics. Throughout history, the tensions between these two branches of Christianity have often been marked by accusations and animosity. When Catholics resort to name-calling, it strengthens these divides, perpetuating the idea that there is one "correct" way to believe and worship. Instead of fostering unity in Christ, such behavior encourages the exact opposite: division, judgment, and mistrust.

This behavior doesn’t show the love of Christ. In fact, it’s a stark contrast to the message that Jesus taught us. Christ welcomed people from all walks of life, meeting them where they were, showing them compassion, and urging them to love one another. The Gospel is about reconciliation, not exclusion. Name-calling breeds hostility rather than understanding. It paints a picture of a Church that is rigid, closed off, and unwilling to see Christ in the other.

For Protestants who are already skeptical of Catholicism, the use of terms like "heretic" further solidifies their negative perception of the Church. It reinforces the belief that Catholics are more interested in maintaining power and tradition than in embracing the radical love that Jesus modeled. If the Catholic Church wants to bridge gaps and show the world the true love of Christ, it must first examine how it treats those within its walls—and those outside of them.

We cannot claim to be following the path of Christ if our actions reflect anything but love, patience, and respect. If we want to move past centuries of division, we must stop labeling one another and start listening to one another with hearts open to the transformative love of Jesus. This is the only way we can show the world what true Christian unity looks like.

A Personal Reflection: "Father Rachel" and the Power of Respect

As someone who was introduced to parishioners as “Father Rachel” by our priest—a term of endearment meant to honor my education and theological background—it’s important to reflect on how these labels matter in the context of faith and respect. While some people jokingly call me “Father Rachel,” it’s a reminder that I’ve dedicated myself to theological study and to understanding the Word of God deeply. My education at one of the world’s largest Christian universities, coupled with my experience as a Candidate for Ordination in the United Methodist Church before the schism, shows my commitment to the Christian faith, regardless of the specific denominational or theological differences.

This is what true Christian unity looks like—not silencing voices that differ but embracing them with understanding and love. Let’s leave behind the labels and focus on walking the path of love and reconciliation. After all, that’s what Christ called us to do.


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